tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369625593490166322.post3095064875736119677..comments2024-01-09T17:12:22.939+02:00Comments on True Crime Book Reviews: Twisted Triangle by Caitlin RotherYvette Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08361339301958932504noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369625593490166322.post-50004838691661837212009-06-27T08:32:49.304+02:002009-06-27T08:32:49.304+02:00Thank you so much John.This rounds off my post nic...Thank you so much John.This rounds off my post nicely and exactly what I wanted from someone who has had first hand experience with this issue.Really beautiful words.Your daughter is a lucky girl!Yvette Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08361339301958932504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8369625593490166322.post-64885921684211505672009-06-27T05:30:28.355+02:002009-06-27T05:30:28.355+02:00Hi Yvette, I missed this post or I would've ch...Hi Yvette, I missed this post or I would've chimed in by now. Yes, I believe that gay parents can raise children in the same way as straight couples. I think so, because my partner and I raised my daughter together ever since she was 2 years old. We are still a family and she still treats us both like Dads. She has never been embarrassed or ashamed.<br /><br />I did think a female role model was important, so I had my daughter involved in girl scouts, volleyball, choir, and I also had her in what is called "Big Brother Big Sister" program, where she had female mentor that devoted a certain amount of time each week with her "little sister." The "Big Sister" would do all kinds of things with her "little sister," stuff that a Mother would do with a daughter. It's a great program and is rewarding for the child and adult who volunteers.<br /><br />But there can be bad gay parents just as there are some bad straight parents. The key is putting the child's needs first, above everything. For us that meant never embarrassing my daughter with public displays of affection, or talk of personal things or anything that would make her uncomfortable.<br /><br />She had sleepovers and birthday parties and all the usual things that a child would have with a set of straight parents. The fact that she had two Dads never bothered any of the children, other parents, or teachers, etc.<br /><br />I hope that one of these days though a gay couple won't have to always be on guard as I was, as far as public displays of affection. Even if gay marriage becomes legal everywhere, there will still always be people against it, just as there are still racist people. They don't wear a sign saying "I'm a Racist," but there are plenty of them out. I know that too, because I have biracial grandchildren. I have told many people not to use the "N" word around me that I was offended. Of course, they would never use that word in front of black people--at least not to their face.<br /><br />For me, I decided early on that my child came first and that after she was grown and out on her own then I could do anything I wanted. It was not such a big sacrifice to make. Every set of parents should put their child's needs first, but too many parents both straight and gay want it all, but being a good parent is a full time job. The parents must limit their wants and needs and put their child first and make time for them. It's the same, whether the parents are straight or gay.<br /><br />I hope this answers your question!Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05514919047169081546noreply@blogger.com